The first half of Caterpillar’s second year was pretty great – he was changing loads and his speech started to develop very quickly and tantrum wise, he wasn’t too bad at all. Then he hit two and a half and things really changed! Whining, tantrums, demands, attitude and refusing to follow direction. The ‘terrible twos’ had descended.
Thankfully, his awesome sense of humour and exploding vocabulary goes a long way to make up for it but I still find challenging behaviour tricky to manage, both actually and emotionally. Frankly, I’m sick of hearing my own moaning and shouting, and it’s not fun for either of us.
I figured there must be another way, a way I could be more positive as a parent, and I started to consider reward charts. We used a sticker chart to potty train Caterpillar last summer and it worked like a dream. He adored being rewarded and responded brilliantly so I figured it was worth a try to encourage other behaviours too.
I looked online and discovered Miggins & B. They are a family company who began selling a range of high quality and unique reward charts after designing charts for their own kids. Most charts I’d seen previously were based on a grid system with star stickers and tick boxes etc but what attracted me to Miggins & B’s charts are that they are based on a themed image, your child collects stickers that match that theme and they can stick them wherever they want. Once they have a certain amount they get the main “prize” sticker which you can then exchange for an actual reward of your choosing.
There are six different charts to choose from, and since Caterpillar really loves space and aliens at the moment I went for the Blast Off! theme. The charts are a really lovely quality, A2 size and made from wipe clean PVC, with reusable stickers. Plus the images are lovely. They come beautifully packed too and with helpful instructions on how to get the most out of the concept.
Miggins & B recommend tackling one area of behaviour at the time which makes a lot of sense so we decided to start with mealtimes. In the last year or so Caterpillar had begun to get a little fussier at mealtimes. He used to eat everything but he was starting to refuse and fuss, get down from the table and make excuses etc. I knew it was definitely behaviour rather than a matter of taste as he would refuse the same meal one day and then eat it all up the next! I had been encouraging him to eat his dinner with the offer of dessert but I wanted to try a different approach and the chart seemed like a good plan.
I had wondered if at two years ten months Caterpillar might be a little young so I was really pleased when he understood and was engaged straight away. From the moment I got the chart out of the box and stuck to the wall he was keen to get involved. The first night was a little challenging as I think the sheer excitement of getting a “special sticker” got him too distracted to eat so we had a bit of a battle. But eventually he ate everything and claimed his reward.
Every night since has been much improved. He still sometimes tries to refuse but when I remind him that he will get a sticker if he eats it all he quickly agrees. I’ve always tried to be relaxed about his eating, if he doesn’t eat something I don’t force him but I explain that he won’t get anything else so this reward system suits us well because it enables us to use something positive to encourage him to eat.
Seeing his excitement about it has been lovely and he even shows off his chart and stickers to visitors. He’s even more interested in getting his sticker than getting his dessert now which is a real shock!
Once he achieves all his stickers and gets his reward I may move onto a different area of behaviour which will probably be a little tougher but I feel very encouraged by the response so far. And at the moment, it gives me one less thing to stress and shout about which is a bonus for me.
Are you in the midst of the ‘terrible twos’ or do you have a difficult ‘threenager’? If you’re considering a reward chart, Miggins & B are a really fantastic option. You can buy yours here.
Disclosure: I received the Blast Off! reward chart from Miggins & B in exchange for an honest review. Content and opinions are all my own.
38 comments on “A More Positive Mum with Miggins & B: Reward Chart Review”
Aaah, these look fabulous! I love the concept! We currently a threenager refusing to be potty trained, and in the worst throes of threenagerdom, and a toddler with possibly award winning perpetual displays of terrible twos. By the end of every day at the moment, I’m an actual wreck… I made a star chart for the potty training, but it got ripped up in total disgust. I will give one of these a go!
I feel your pain! Thanks for reading x
I love the sound of this! My little boy is going through a super whiney / tantrum stage, but I wonder whether he’s too young to really understand something like this. I think definitely for when he’s a little bit older though!
Yeah they do have to be of a certain age although sometimes they surprise you. I used a different chart for potty training T six months ago and he was only 2 years 4 months then so you never know. Thanks for reading x
Oh my…how gorgeous are those charts? I must admit I lost the energy and the motivation with the reward chart system as I have a 11, 9 and 6 yo and it became one more thing to remind them about. “Have you moved your counter on the reward chart yet?” But these have got me rethinking…! Glad they’re working for you too. #BloggerClubUK
They do make a great change from the traditional charts. Thanks for reading and commenting x
Wow what a wonderful idea! I’m so glad it’s helping you xx #coolmumclub
These look great! My son is slightly too young for reward charts yet but I’ll bare them in mind once he turns 2 in June. thanks for sharing #coolmumsclub
Thanks for reading 🙂
This is such a good idea, im going to try this when I potty train my daughter in a couple of months #FamilyFun
Great plan, stickers helped lots with potty training for us x Thanks for commenting x
Ooh I have this to look forward to! I love the themed image idea as opposed to conventional tick boxes. Much more child friendly! I hope all goes well when you move onto a second behaviour. #familyfun
Thanks! Might start on manners next. Thank you for reading 🙂
I love the look of these charts! I think I may have to invest. My little lady has always been a sucker for a sticker but we haven’t bothered with charts up to now as the whole grid thing puts me off a bit but these look really fun and engaging. I love positive rewards for good behaviour.
T absolutely adores his and gets really excited about it, bless him. Thanks for reading 🙂
I remember those times well, LP was terrible at meal times. In the end I did just what you’re doing now and chose a reward chart. It’s a great tool to encourage behaviour. Great review. x
Thanks for reading, glad rewards worked for you too 🙂
This looks great, I think we need to start something like this with Alfie as he is been a bit challenging at the moment and i’m wondering whether a reward chart might be a good idea to introduce. Thanks for linking up, I will check them out #bestandworst
Great! Thanks for reading x
It’s great you’ve found something that works for you; the reward charts look brilliant! I will definitely keep them in mind for when my bubba is older. It’s always nice to feel more positive. #FamilyFun
Definitely is. Thanks for reading x
Currently dealing with a v angry (at times) four year old! We dealt with a phase of bad behaviour some time ago with ‘praising the positive’ and it worked an absolute dream…maybe we need to revisit that approach!
Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub, looks like a lovely product.
It does seem to work, doesn’t it? But so, so difficult to do – I still struggle with my temper and patience a lot. Thanks for commenting x
We are at two and a half and what a change! Weve been using reward charts too. He still has zero interest in the potty tho and says he likes nappies :/ YAY not. xx
It’s weird isn’t it? Almost overnight for us. Thanks for reading x
I really hope we get an “overnight” ending to pottygate! I’m dedicating time over easter since im off work with hubby and he can take some of the shits while I enjoy the giggles 😉
They are really great quality, that’s what I was most impressed with. And you’re right, T loves the freedom of choosing where to put his sticker 🙂 Thanks for reading x
I think sticker charts are the best way to encourage kids in a positive way! My kids have responded so well to them over time. I love the rocket chart – it looks really exciting & engaging. Best of luck with it! Thanks so much for sharing with us at #bloggerclubuk x
It’s surprising how positively a child can respond to something as simple as a sticker, isn’t it? Thanks for commenting x
I have been thinking of getting my toddler a reward chart as she loves stickers. These ones look great I will have to check them out x #triedtested
They are a really great idea! Thanks for reading x
A lovely way to encourage good behaviour
What a wonderful idea.
It is a great chart, thanks for commenting x
This looks great, I wonder if it would work with Elsie and her staying in her bed at night! Thanks for sharing on #ToddlerApprovedTuesday
Worth a try! Thanks for reading x