The indignant, modern woman in me is frowning at the title of this post because in our modern times shouldn’t ALL men automatically be sharing the childcare responsibilities equally? Why does the phrase ‘hands-on dad’ even exist as shouldn’t all fathers now be getting stuck in with the day-to-day grit and grime of raising young children?
However, I’m a realist and I know that a world like that is still a little aspirational. I know of many couples in fact where the man still doesn’t get up for night-feeding (and even sleeps in a separate room in some cases), avoids bath time and dirty nappies and leans towards a role of “fun parent” only.
This makes me even more grateful for my own lovely husband who is the epitome of “hands-on” and who shares the care of our son completely 50/50 (or more sometimes). So here’s a thank you to him, and the countless other dads who readily get involved in the less-than-desirable sides of parenting.
- Thank you for sharing the night wakings
- Thank you for taking the children off our hands when you arrive home from work and we’re at the end of our ropes
- Thank you for dealing with more than your share of dirty nappies
- Thank you for discussing discipline techniques and carrying them out with us
- Thank you for taking the kids downstairs at the crack of dawn and letting us have a rare lie-in
- Thank you for the regular girls-nights-out (and for never calling it babysitting when it’s your own child!)
- Thank you for not disappearing to the pub every night
- Thank you for not spending several hours a day playing video games
- Thank you for working out a way for us to go back to work
- Thank you for working out a way for us to stay at home with our kids
- Thank you for distracting the toddler from a tantrum
- Thank you for cleaning up the sick/wee/poo/mashed up Weetabix
- Thank you for pushing the buggy up that hill
- Thank you for singing that nursery rhyme one more time when we’re losing our minds with boredom
- Thank you for reading that Jo Frost Toddler SOS book we gave you
- Thank you for telling us you appreciate how hard being a parent is
- Thank you for admitting you’re struggling too
- Thank you for loving us enough to realise that parenting is the ultimate in teamwork